For more than 30 years I have been honored to be of service to individuals, couples and families who have come to see me with many different emotional and social problems. Each of these problems is both unique to their life and, at the same time, part of our common humanity. When I look at my own life history, I see a similar story of problems to be solved, in relationships, identity confusion, financial and workplace issues, addictions, rumination and regrets of the past, and worry and anxiety about the future.
One of the most important lessons I have learned is the way in which I should try to see these “problems.” I have come to understand that most problematic issues in life and the accompanying narratives are just a smoke screen or defensive layer hiding the only true problem to be solved: a belief in separation, lack of awareness of our true self in the moment, lack of self-compassion, and lack of the awareness of love.
I have worked in community mental health centers, public schools, recovery programs, supervised domestic violence offender treatment programs, taught in the Psychology Department of Highline College, and am currently semi-retired in private practice. These situations and environments have offered me an opportunity to continue to awaken and learn that self-compassion, peace of mind, and quality of life is an internal condition that radiates outward. That peace is not a condition to be achieved, but a timeless state of Oneness to be remembered. Every person I encounter, whether in counseling or life in general, is an opportunity to be reminded that I have one purpose, one goal, one reason to live, one thing I hope to demonstrate, one condition I want to intimately know—and this is Love. The experience of Love is the motivation for living this day.